Healthy boundaries
What is a border?
A border is on the outskirts of the energetic field which emanates from our Centre and points in the world from other people, things and situations.
When our borders are intact us a sense of well-being, autonomy and a "'I am-ness.'"
"Having a container has no leaks (clearly limits) enables more experience to be felt," wrote Saida Desilets in his book the emergence of the sensual woman. "When our borders have been crushed by another person, or if we do not consciously set the limits, we can become eroded to our Centre, unstable in our own skin, blocked in our energy, the more powerful and less powerful".
Limits are not walls
Often the boundaries are believed wrongly as we separate from each other. However, the truth is that when we learn how to have healthy and distinctive limits, we can be more truly present with others and more genuinely connected. Identify the sense of having authentic limits, we are naturally motivated to create. Remember, limits are not walls meant to protect others, they define the parameters that allow us to have more of who we authentically.
When I teach, introduce or facilitate group processes, I have noticed that the way which I relate to the group is strongly influenced by my ability to stay aware of my limitations. Without a sense of my own limit I feel often not sure to be able to keep the space for the group, probably because I am not even really space for myself.
When I first space for me, consciously creating my own limit, however, there is an instant sense of coming home in my own body. It is this connection to myself, what does it mean to be in my power. This place I CAN hold respectful and dynamic space for others, by encouraging them to trust in my direction.
Notice:
View at this time, if you have a sense of yourself beyond your own physical body.
If you do, how far your energetic body extends at the moment within a radius of 360 degrees around you. This tells you how much space your picking up and let others know you need and deserve.
If you do not, how is this showing in your relationships with others? You feel light, heard and respected? Lack of recognition can often lead to a lack of boundaries by those around you.
Ask yourself these questions and notices.
In my next post soon that I'll share more to be in good health, authentic, felt limits sense so that your relationships thrive and feel safe in your own body.
Leela Francis is a speaker, moderator and an Expert of power incarnate. She is the founder and CEO of striking woman, help women tap into their embodies the power to become prosperous, healthy and fulfilled leaders, personally and professionally.
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