What is a border in good health?

Healthy boundaries

What is a border?

A border is on the outskirts of the energetic field that emanates from our Centre and points in the world in relation to other people, things and situations.

When our borders are intact us a sense of well-being, autonomy and a "'I am-ness.'"

"Having a container has no leakage (clearly limits) enables more experience to be felt," wrote Saida Desilets in his book the emergence of the sensual woman. "When our borders have been crushed by another person, or if we fail consciously set the limits, we can become eroded to our Centre, unstable in our own skin, in our energy, the more powerful and less powerful."

Limits are not walls

Often the boundaries are wrongly considered separate us from each other. However, the truth is that when we learn how to have healthy and distinctive limits, we can be really present with others and more genuinely connected. Identify the sense of having authentic limits, we are naturally motivated to create. Remember, limits are not walls meant to protect others, they define the parameters that allow us to have more of who we genuinely.

When I teach, introduce or facilitate group processes, I noticed that the way I relate to the group is strongly influenced by my ability to stay aware of my limitations. Without a sense of my own limit I feel often not sure to be able to keep the space for the group, probably because I am not even really space for myself.

When I hold first space for me, consciously create my own limitations, however, there is an instant sense of coming home in my own body. This connection to myself, this is what means in my power. This place I CAN hold respectful and dynamic space for others, by encouraging them to trust in my direction.

Notice:

View at this time, if you have a sense of yourself beyond your own physical body.

If you do so, to what extent your energetic body extends at this time within a radius of 360 degrees around you. This tells you how much space your taking and let others know you need and deserve.

If you do not, how is this place in your relationships with others? You feel light, heard and respected? A lack of limits can often lead to lack of recognition by those around you.

Ask yourself these questions and notices.

In my next few posts I will share more on the healthy, authentic, felt limits sense so that your relationships thrive and feel safe in your own body.

Leela Francis is a speaker, moderator and an Expert of power incarnate. She is the founder and CEO of markedly woman, help women tap into their embodies the power to become prosperous, healthy and fulfilled leaders, personally and professionally.

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