I recently read an article entitled "Bad female Boss?" It can be Queen Bee Syndrome "and felt compelled to write this post." In my work with the leaders of more and more women, I am finding that many of them are struggling in their relations with their employees. Although these women are highly competent, intelligent and extremely hard workers, they are often difficult to work for.
The article states that "as a group of German researchers, women who reported female supervisors were cases higher depression, headaches, of heartburn and insomnia if their bosses were men". Despite the assumption that women will be more compassionate leaders, reality has yet to play out this way.
Good number of female Boss I work with have had to fight their way through "good ole' clubs boys, condescension, contempt and a hostile work environment global women leaders." Many of these women responded to these environments of management as men... and even more difficult. The paper reports that "the Queen Bee Syndrome is the alpha female trying to preserve his power at any price". While I understand how women received at this location, is not the place where we want to stay. More hardness in corporate America is the last thing I'd like to see women doing.
Women and the world, to benefit from progress in with a new type of women's leadership. I challenge the leaders to think differently than ever before. Dare step in the old paradigm of "power-over", in a new paradigm that models a quiet force, grounded presence and a spirit of cooperation which genuinely mentors rather than shame on those who work for us. When we are rooted in our own strength, we feel is no longer the need to crush others in the ground to show that we are on top. When we believe in ourselves, us will not not shaken by the success of other females around us - we will celebrate it.
Here are some tips to keep in mind as a women's leader:
1 Look at the tone. Simply because someone makes a mistake does not mean that you have the right to speak to the bottom, their shame or snap them. Treat all employees with respect at all times.
2 Be a mentor is not a drill sergeant. Take the time to show them how to think, create and implement new ideas. Is giving orders. Be punitive, it is the way the more rapid to create an employee angry, angry. Make sure that you not teach them punish.
3 Hear their voices. The best absolute to inspire the loyalty of your employees is a positive treatment. If your employees you have their back, they will be yours. Trust me! Listen to their ideas, to encourage creative thinking and create an environment where the door is always open. Not close to be in a meeting or one by one. Do not let someone else on your team to close down employees either.
4 Remember and have your humanity. If you screw up-owners. Acknowledge your errors with humility and grace. It is the excellent role modeling and will create a work environment more compassionate. If your employees say that they do not like something that you did a - hear their comments. Their feedback is a gift to your leadership, have the courage to take.
5 Get centered. Don't forget that your intrinsic value is equal to the value of the other beings human. Do not try to prove you to those in higher than you, positions or positions. Be confident in who you are and to refuse squash who along your journey to the top (including yourself).
Be a leader is a gift. It is an opportunity to create change at a broader level. Take the time to reflect on the type of change you want to create. Do just the status quo - that is not be a leader. A woman, would not be a new type of leader. We need more powerful, relational leaders than ever before. Have the courage to start a new leadership paradigm which accumulates the people rather than tears down. Dare to get out of the old constraints first ripple of change.
Challenge: Take a long and hard look at your style of leadership and you ask if you want to work for you. If the answer is no, or you fight with your employees, it is time to change your spirit of leadership. Mentor does shame; accumulation of do not kill; lead not intimidate.
Lisa Merlo-Booth is a coach of relationship with more than 15 years of experience in the field of therapy and coaching. She has worked with individuals, families and couples on a variety of life's questions. http://www.relationalcoaching.com/.
She received her master's degree in counseling psychology from Pepperdine University in 1991 and received his training to coach at the University of the coach. Lisa is the Director of the formation of the relational life Institute belonging to the renowned author, Terrence real.
Visit blog of Lisa on relations in the http://lmerlobooth.typepad.com/straight_talk_4_women/
