One of the advantages of having worked as a pharmacist until I did was the opportunity to know and understand the pensioners and their lifestyle. What I learned from them had a huge impact on my way of thinking about how to obtain the maximum of mature years. As it interacted with them I used to think that if any person contemplating retirement had a chance to deal with retirees on a daily basis would drastically change how people and prepare to live in retirement.
One of the most important things I learned from retirees is that there are distinct stages to retirement, but very few people understand those stages and therefore fail to plan or how to deal with them.
The first phase of withdrawal consists of just retired enjoy freedom of not having to go to work every day. This is what I call the honeymoon phase-finally get to do what he dreamed of doing-having a great time and that fun, finances, good health and will last forever. For most retirees this phase lasts about 2-3 years.
The second stage announces the closing of the honeymoon phase and the realization that the fun and games are not as pleasant or satisfying as they used to be. The retreat continued lifestyle begins to take hold. But here's the thing – most people don't understand or anticipate that lifestyle traditional constant translates into "stealth decline"-decline that creeps in as a result of failure to use the mind and body in such a way as to maintain youthful skills. Most do not see it coming. Even at this stage, the health problems that may have been minor irritants before they begin to flare. And finance at this stage? Statistics are not in the positive column for too many pensioners.
Contributing to the decline in stealth is daily interaction with mainly with people of the same age. Frequent exposure to their circumstances and mentality affects the rate of aging. It is impossible to associate with people of the same age on a regular basis in a relatively closed and not be influenced by them, and how they live.
Most of the retirees reach the second stage by accepting and sympathy with which they are in life. Friends, activities, health and financial matters are what they are. Life continued to revolve around traditional culture Board, with the participation of senior activities with senior friends. Little if any thought is given to the future in terms of what might be still and that's okay if it makes you happy.
Then there is the third phase. May be the most rewarding or frustrating phase of life.
At the end of phase two, many retirees still want more from life and from themselves, but they do not know what to do or how to do it. If you think back to work to previous employment or something related to it, most likely is not a realistic option because so much has changed. Have changed as well, both mentally and physically. Often, a huge part of change is devastating loss of self worth because they are no longer productive. Signs of physical deterioration of the issue. So we are longing for more, but unable to find fulfillment. Some have the courage and the ability to reinvent yourself, don't do it anymore.
The best strategy is this: before retirement, to know oneself. The lure of leisure and freedom that comes with the retirement is convincing, but cannot allow a fantasy vision of utopia to replace reality. Know who and what you are and what you still want out of life and how to get it right before closing the door on your life's work.
If you are now retired and the third stage, and are determined to get more out of life, but feeling stuck, here are some suggestions:
You disentangle from culture and lifestyle.If you can find a part-time job that you enjoy, consider it a gift even if the pay is less than you would like.Lessons that will teach a new ability that not only has market value, but it will help you to grow and maintain critical cognitive abilities.Join new groups that do more than eat, meet and retire and are not related to age.Run for public office. You can't do worse than the clowns currently in Office.Volunteer to do the job that takes you out of yourself and get in touch with younger people. Volunteer work is often a great port of paid work.If you're a woman, stay away from women who are focused on being "young", but live in the past. They drag you down and sabotage your goals.I'm so much more than your chronological age. You have acquired valuable experiences and wisdom are not exceeded. If you still have a desire to create and produce do not allow their culture or tradition to tamp down your enthusiasm or extinguish your newly veiled determination with suggestions that are too old or not competent as used to be. Listen to your body and mind and go ahead with bakers life as you prefer. After the retirement of honeymoon is over you can have a life that is better than ever. Be brave and go for it. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Barbara Morris, r. Ph. is a pharmacist, author of "Put old on Hold" and a recognized authority on strategies for health and anti-aging. Subscribe to its monthly put old on Hold to the http://www.putoldonhold.com/Newsletter and receive your free ebook, "Twelve DivaTested tips for fabulous skin." His expertise is mentioned in Art Linkletter and Mark Victor Hansen's new book, "how to make the rest of your life the best of your life."
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