I recently read an article titled "Bad Boss female? You can have the Queen Bee Syndrome "and felt compelled to write this post. In my work with more female leaders, I'm finding that many of them are struggling in their relationships with their employees. Although these women are highly competent, intelligent and extremely hard, they are often difficult to work for.
The article states that, "according to a group of German researchers, women who reported to the female supervisors had higher depression, insomnia, headaches and heartburn that if their leaders were men." Although the assumption has been that women will be more compassionate leader, reality has yet to play this way.
Many of the bosses of the female with whose work they had to fight their way through "good ole boys ' Club of patronization, contempt, and a working environment in General hostile to women leaders. Many of these women have responded to these management environments like men ... and even more harsh. The article reports that "The Queen Bee syndrome is the alpha female, which seeks to preserve its power at all costs." Although I understand how women have achieved in this place, it is not the place where we want to stay. Bringing more hardness in corporate America is the last thing I'd like to see women doing.
Women and the world will benefit from women to step in with a new type of leadership. Female leaders challenge to think differently than in the past. Have the courage to get out of the old paradigm "power-over" and a new paradigm that models a quiet strength, a presence on the ground and a collaborative spirit that really mentors rather than shame for those who work under us. When we are rooted in our own strength, there will no longer need to grind the other into the ground to prove that we are on top. When we believe in ourselves, there will be shaken by the success of other females around us-we will celebrate it.
Below are some tips to keep in mind as a female leader:
1. watch your tone. Just because someone makes a mistake does not mean that you have the right to speak with them, shame or snap at them. Handle all your employees with respect at all times.
2. a mentor not being a drill sergeant. Take the time to show them how to think, create and implement new ideas. Not only give orders. Being punitive is the quickest way to create an employee angry, resentful. Be sure that you instruct them not to punish them.
3. listen to their voice. The absolute best way to instill loyalty from your employees through positive treatment. If employees feel about having their backs, they have signed. Trust me! Listen to their ideas, encourage creative thinking and create an environment where your door is always open. Don't shut them down or in a meeting or one-on-one. Do not allow anyone else on your team of your employees close down either.
4. Recalls and your own humanity. If you screw up-owning it. Recognize your mistakes with humility and grace. This is the excellent role modeling and will create a more compassionate work environment. If your employees say that they don't like something you did-to listen to their feedback. Their feedback is a gift to your leadership, have the courage to carry it in.
5. Get centered. Remember that your intrinsic value is equal to the value of every other human being. Do not try to prove yourself to those higher positions than you or those in lower positions. Be confident in who you are and refuse to squash anyone along the journey upwards (including themselves).
Be a leader is a gift. It is an opportunity to create change at a broader level. Take time to think about the type of change that you want to create. It is not enough to make the status quo-that is not a leader. As a woman, the courage to go out and be a new kind of leader. We need a leader, more powerful than ever. Have the courage to start a new paradigm in leadership that builds people rather than tears. Start the ripple of change dared leave the old constraints.
Challenge: A long, hard look at your style of leadership and ask yourself whether you would like to work for you. If the answer is no, or fight with your employees, it is time to shift your mindset leadership. Mentor not ashamed; accumulation of not breaking; lead not overbearing.
Lisa Merlo-cab is a relationship with over 15 years of experience in the field of therapy and coaching. She has worked with individuals, families and couples on a variety of life issues. http://www.relationalcoaching.com/.
He earned his Master's degree in Counseling Psychology at Pepperdine University in 1991 and received his training, coaching from Coach University. Lisa is the Director of training for the relational life Institute author famous, Terrence real.
Check the blog of Lisa reports to http://lmerlobooth.typepad.com/straight_talk_4_women/
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